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Schedule Changes

Hi everyone,

Jill and I will be discussing these details in class today, but we’d like to clearly communicate them in writing as well to ensure we are all on the same page.

Week 15: Mon, 11/30-Fri, 12/4
  • We will not meet in person this week, as specified in the syllabus. This week you will develop the online presentation component of your final project in VoiceThread. See Challenge 6-Component 1 for more details. Jill and I will be available to meet remotely via Zoom this week to support you with your final project.
Week 16: Mon, 12/7-Fri, 12/11
  • This is finals week and we will not meet in person. This week you will participate (leave comments) in your peers’ VoiceThread presentations and write your final reflection blog post (see Challenge 6-Component 2).

If you have any questions, please let us know!

best,

Michelle & Jill

My thoughts on media and how it may lead to unhealthy eating habits

Although there were many interesting topics to choose from this week’s readings such as obesity, anorexia, and the article that was posted, in my little blog i primarily talked about how the media may have an influence on unhealthy eating habits. I related it to my childhood and elaborated a little on that.

So!

This week’s readings were very interesting due to the nostalgic memories they brought me. In chapter 8, Sternheimer talks about popular culture and if it contributes to anorexia and obesity. Additionally, she mentioned how television, food advertisements and video games are always the entity being blamed for these problems. Moreover, I can definitely see and agree with the individuals who blame popular culture media and television. Now a days, young individuals are glued to the television set more than their homework, which is probably not a good thing for their brain development. By viewing an abundance of television may lead to the young individual to pick up habits that may not be good for them. For example, young females are probably watching something that is geared towards them, and is probably showed on a popular music channel. MTV, VH1 are music channels that young female viewers may be hooked on. Moreover, these channels definitely stress the importance of image, new trends that are occurring, and may display famous actors and their eating habits. Additionally, these images may stick to a young female or male, and may create unhealthy habits.

Additionally, the article “The Relationship between Television Viewing and Unhealthy Eating,” made me ponder about this topic and relate it to my childhood. For example,  when i was growing up, i would always watch Rocket Power, but i never really payed attention to the media and try to figure out what message was being relayed. I would always pay attention to the actual television show and figure out what’s going on in the episode. Come to think of it, during commercial breaks, i do remember seeing an array of unhealthy name brand foods being displayed, which i can see young individuals being brainwashed into liking and wanting these products. In addition, the article discusses how an individuals food preference plays a major role in one’s diet, and how food preferences are developed through learning processes. That was interesting and made sense to me because young viewers brains are still developing. Additionally, due to their brain developing, by watching all these unhealthy commercials may imbed these unhealthy messages at a young age, which may lead to their unhealthy eating habits.

Lastly, there were a lot of interesting points Sternheimer brought up through out the chapter. For example, she mentioned between the years “1980 through 2000, the number of children classified as overweight doubled for those aged two through eleven and tripled for adolescents twelve to nineteen” (Sternheimer, 2013). That’s intense, and i can definitely see why there was such a dramatic increase. You have different corporations competing with each other trying to sell their products on television, which probably leads to the young individual telling their parents to buy them the product. If the product is good, the young individual may generate an addiction and may want more of the product which leads to unhealthy eating.

 

Santa Rosa Island

My first impression of Santa Rosa island, was that the island wasn’t habitable nor  capable to sustain life for large animals, because of the lack in vegetation on the hill side. in my mind I could see Santa Rosa island as an island in which  research could take place, in regards to analysis of rocks, indigenes plants and settlement  with in the ground. Nevertheless,  once I actually stepped a foot on the island I figured out that the island had new and exciting information, that I would later embark on. Throughout my stay at Santa Rosa island, I hope to encounter more information about local life on the island as well as see the correlation between the main land, Santa Barbra, and the Channel Islands.

Throughout our second work shop, our tour guide took us on a tour though the plant rehab center, at the rehab center our guide ( Couse) explained the logistics behind the  plant center. He stated that the rehab center was in charge of the natural irrigation of water, to better help wild life and plants. the natural irrigation that the Guide was trying to illustrate for us starts, by first planting grass on the hill side so that local trees could substantially hold the soil round them. Throughout Santa Rosa island I could see these trees almost coming out of the ground, due to wind and water corrosion and lack of grass round them. the plant life that was originally on the island, was grazed (Down by) farm animals: sheep, cows and horses. Because in late history of the island , Ranchers, influenced the plant life a lot because when they transported these animals to the island, they didn’t have the slightest idea that they would impact the ecosystem as much. “Nevertheless, the problem still stands” Couse, states to use at the end of the tour,  “and the only way we can change it, is by taking action”.  these words left with me as I went back to the main land because, know when I see problem that I wish to change, I know that if I make some type of action, then I could make a difference.

 

 

 

Genre, How does it fit into AVC Soccer?

 

 

The written medium for discourse communities, usually always conceals a specialized topic, has developing fundamental languages, written communication, and expertise within the community.  Along with these, an important aspect, genre, tends to help match where the category falls into with the written discourse. “Each discipline whether it is English, Psychology, or History has its own key concepts and language for describing these important ways of understanding the world,” (1). Dirk explains how genre fits into writing.

In differentiating the difference between speech communities and discourse communities Swales states that: “Literacy takes away locality and parochiality, for members are more likely to communicate with other members in distant places, and are more likely to react and respond to writings than from speech from the past,” (2). The point is that writing not only records but makes communication viable through distances, in which participants can explore and be a part of, from virtually any workable location. Swales also suggests that writing creates communication that can be reflected from the past, not just the present as how speech communities would be only focusing in the present moment.

When the word genre is used, people often think in terms of textual forms—for example, the form that a sonnet or review takes. Other times, people think in categories of items they enjoy—for example the genre of country music, epic films, or first person—shooter video games,” (4). These do fit into genres, but here we are specifically talking about the written communication that goes on between a discourse community. The genre in which I analyze is Antelope Valley College Women’s Soccer.

As the genre falls into one specific means, the Facebook website, designed for Antelope Valley College’s athletes, one can find that events that have taken place are being discussed. For instance,

“Valerie Valladares assisted on Adriana Serrano’s goal just eight minutes in against West LA and scored another one in the second half as the Marauders ended significant futility and beat the Wildcats 4-0,” (3). For the 2015 record AVC had its second win after a difficult trend throughout the season. The genre discusses how the season is going for the Marauders as well as the most recent win/tie/loss track record.

To go further on that, it also addresses future games where fans or friends can come to watch in. Although here I discuss the end ranking for the finish, the website also addresses individual rankings so that one can look up his or her favorite team member. If I had a daughter playing for Antelope Valley College Soccer in the future, I could look up her individual statistics and see how many goals she scored or how many assists she had towards a goal. The rankings also use special formulas to come up with a ranking that is important for scholarship. During my year in 2008, three girls were selected for scholarships based off of this ranking. This was really important as it helped their families, and rewarded them for their contribution towards the college and their performance.

Final 1 2 T
WEST LA (2-8-4, 1-5-2) 0 0 0
ANTELOPE VALLEY (3-8-3, 1-5-2) 1 3 4

<http://gomarauders.avc.edu/sports/wsoc/2015-16/releases/20151024pum11s>

Just as one can look for the Marauder Athletics Facebook page, one can access the Antelope Valley College’s Main Website and receive an update on the team’s latest statistics as well. One can see directly from the AVC website that AVC has three losses, one tie and one win as of October ninth playing against Bakersfield, in which they lost 1-0. One can also explore “full scores and schedules”, statistics of individual players, and explore much more in depth material on who has scored goals, how many goals are scored for the season, and even the assists and shots per game. Looking at the site fits into the genre for the discourse community by giving the players, and community supporters, the fans a total and complete insight of data for the season or the year.

Antelope Valley

GAMES GOALS GOALS-PER GAME SHOT % SHOTS-PER GAME GAA
17 20 1.2 .175 6.7 2.25
SCHEDULE SUMMARY
Overall (Pct.) 3-11-3 (.265)
Conference (Pct.) 1-8-2 (.182)
Streak Lost 3
Home 2-5-2
Away 0-5-1
Neutral 1-1
RECENT GAMES
Oct 16 at Santa Monica L, 3-0
Oct 21 Citrus L, 1-0
Oct 23 West LA W, 4-0
Oct 27 Canyons L, 5-2
Oct 30 LA Valley L, 4-0
Nov 3 at Bakersfield L, 4-0
STATISTICS CATEGORY OVERALL CONF
Games 17 11
Shots 114 68
Goals scored 20 10
Shot percentage .175 .147
Shots-per game 6.7 6.2
Shots on goal 64 39
SOG percentage .561 .574
Assists 14 6
Corner kicks 18 11
Penalty kicks 0-0 0-0
Yellow cards 2 2
Red cards 0 0
Shutouts 5 1
Home Attendance 0 0
Home Attendance average 0 0

<http://gomarauders.avc.edu/sports/wsoc/2015-16/teams/antelopevalley>

In looking at the purpose for the genre one can take a look into the historical context of women’s soccer as was suggested by Professor Justice. Before the nineteen seventies, women were not able to play sports through the educative system. The chances of getting into Law or Medical school were also significantly less for females. Congress made a positive change for women that changed the opportunity for women in sports and in being more likely accepted into specific programs into college, based off of non-discrimination and rights acts. “In 1972, Congress passed Title IX of the 1972 Education Amendments Act, a federal law that prohibits discrimination on the basis of gender at educational institutions that are recipients of federal funds,” This protects women’s rights to play sports and participate in team efforts that teach coordination according to Professor Justice, and perseverance.

Without the efforts of the judicial system, and women making a stand towards the right to play collegiate sports, we would not have the genre today in which we look at that contributes to school funding, and the teachings implications that the athletes learn while being a participant of the program.

Looking at somewhat recent statistics from 2007, a study conducted by the NCAA “According to the latest Graduation Success Rate, 84 percent of Division I student-athletes who entered college in 2007 graduated – the highest rate ever. Division I student-athletes continue to outperform their peers in the general student body, when compared using the federal graduation rate,” (6). The data did not consider students who were academically ineligible and did look at students who had transferred and graduated elsewhere. The study is conducted by the NCAA who are here to participate and excel student athlete’s progression academically and personal growth. The organization funds programs that monitor thought the APR (Academic Progress Rate) and GSR (Graduation Success Rate). I remember meeting with Mike Rios, the counselor responsible for delivering this program, and during this portion of my academic career, I had the highest GPA semester that I have ever had through my entire academic career.

Fitting this information into genre one can look at how the importance in origin, the goals of the community, and the supportive genre help build intercollegiate female athlete students in their academic career. Having the support of other teammates and having a role model on the field, both implement implicit factors into a student’s success. Although fears of stereo-types make athletes out to be as less intelligent, often times I heard my soccer coach state that there have been studies indicating that female athletes are more intelligent than male athletes. Whether this was a self-fulfilling prophecy or not, I was delighted to hear that female athletes were smarter than male athletes.

Other studies indicate the stigma associated with these negative stereotypes in which I had felt no more or less intellectually being a part of the program. Being a part of the program brought for me good structure towards my academic career, a good place for stress relief, and a good place for discipline. Not to mention all of the other great factors that come along with it such as being able to travel to other colleges, making friends on the team, and learning how to work with others and not just on your own. While also, the programs that most athletic programs participate in, actually do help in creating a conscious plan towards achieving one’s academic goals by sitting down and reviewing ones progress throughout the semester. One can compare it to meeting with an academic guider, but in a pro-active way. Grades are always addressed before they become a problem, and not to mention I could use time on the bus to study.

As far as traveling as a part of our team efforts towards games, another factor involved was the increase in fitness. I remember my soccer coach saying “This is the fittest that you will ever be in your life,” and I would say to myself, no its not I am sure that I will be this fit again, and he was right. However I did manage to keep a lot of the muscle that I gained over the years.

A lot of the time my job was to play midfield and that was pretty much my only expert position. My job was to receive the ball and then to distribute the ball or shoot the ball from center field. There was a time when I had stolen the ball from the other team and I had felt that if I took the shot and missed that my teammates would had been mad at me for not having faith in them, so when I saw one of my teammates to the right who was open, I passed the ball over to her and unfortunately the defense from the other team took the ball. The reason why this game stands out is because I remember the coach being really mad at me for not taking the shot. I thought that at least I was being considerate to my teammates by having faith in their abilities, although it would had been ok to have faith in my own as well.

Discourse communities individually tend to have their own form of genre, for Antelope Valley Women’s Soccer in particular, the genre tends to be through social media, specifically Facebook, and the athletic portion of the college website as well. Discourse communities tend to have their own lexis, a written means to express intercommunication, and expertise within the discourse. In soccer, coaches have tended to obtain at least a master’s degree in kinesiology, while within the lexis soccer players are somewhat novices in comparison to the soccer coach, in which the players can learn about teamwork, increase their terminology from within the group, and learn to be team players for when they join the workforce as Professor Justice puts it, as he states it during one of the days of lecture.

In looking at discourse communities, one can say that the genre is always written, as I have heard Professor Justice comment. The genre is important because it is the part of the information that can be written down and then reevaluated later. Swales brings up this point in his writings which is how I remember it. It makes the uniqueness of discourse communities and their genre stand out the most because of all the written out details entailed. And needless to say, the diverged amount of written language that becomes so uniquely specialized and intercommunicated amongst members of the group to define the group through its ‘written discourse’.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Works Cited

 

  1. Dirk, Kerry, “Navigating Genres.” Writing Spaces: Readings on Writing. Eds. Charles Lowe and Pavel Zemliansky. Parlor Press, 2010. 249-262. Web. http://writingspaces.org/essays.
  2. Swales, John. “The Concept of Discourse Community.” Genre Analysis: English in Academic and Research Settings. Cambridge: Cambridge UP, 1990. <https://csuci.blackboard.com/bbcswebdav/pid-1078759-dt-content-rid-2035541_1/courses/2158_ENGL_107_01_1410/Swales%20Discourse%20Community.pdf>
  3. Antelope Valley College. Marauder Athletics. 3041 West Ave K, Lancaster, CA 93536. Web. < http://gomarauders.avc.edu/sports/wsoc/2015-16/releases/20151024pum11s>.
  4. Anonymous, . “Genre.” College Composition and Communication, 62.3 (2011): 560.
  5. NCAA Research. 700 W. Washington Street P.O. Box 6222 Indianapolis, Indiana 46206-6222. Web. <http://www.ncaa.org/about/resources/research/graduation-rates>

 

 

Project 3

 

In this post I will be looking at genre and its purpose in the discourse community of our english 107 class.  When writing it is important to establish who your audience is and to figure out what exactly you are trying to accomplish with your writing, “First, determine what action you are trying to accomplish.” (Dirk 261). Once the audience is established, it is necessary to have establish credibility for your writing, most notably by having a deep knowledge in the subject matter you’re writing about. In Swales’ analysis, he describes a ‘discourse community’ as a group who shares knowledge in a particular area of interest.  Having knowledge on a subject and being able to transfer those thoughts into writing is what allows someone to be a part of that discourse community. In our english 107 class, writing communication and feedback are critical components we share with one another to develop successful projects. Without communication, our class would not operate as smoothly as it currently does. We communicate through google documents which allows each member of our discourse community to engage and react to one another’s writing.

 

Who you are writing to and the subject matter will help you determine the genre you should try to conform to.  For example, if you are attempting to get someone to accomplish certain tasks in order, a bulleted list of tasks is preferred over a long paragraph.  This allows the reader to take in the list easily and check off tasks as they complete them.  “Because it seems only appropriate that given the fact that I am talking about genre awareness, I should make you aware of my own struggles with writing in a new genre.”  (Dirk 251).  Genre and audience are important to what you are writing so that you know who you are writing to, why you are writing and how it should be composed as well as the type of content it should include.  Of course, this is not always so easy.  It takes time and practice to become familiar with a new genre or a new subject. For example, when we peer review each others writing in this english 107 class, we generally bullet point specific strategies that we suggest will improve the works we are reading. This makes it easy for the author of that work to incorporate the suggestions into their writing. Some common feedback I often receive is good use of colorful language and to use sources more fluidly. This is how our community shapes the writing of others in our class.

 

There are four basic genres used in the discourse community of this 107 english class; Ci keys to see what assignments are and how they should be executed, write reading logs in google docs, provide feedback to one another projects in our reading logs, and the verbal communication between each other in our groups.

 

Above is screenshot of some of the feedback I received on my project two reading log. I learned that my visual presentation was not very vivid nor impressive. I applied all the revisions that were suggested by my classmates, which definitely improved my slideshow substantially. This type of genre is helpful because it makes it easy for me to simply read broad suggestions and intelligently apply them to my overall product. Simple bullet points are easy to refer back to while making revisions which helps keep me on tract and on point.

 

Some of the subjects discussed in this genre are color schemes, referring back to Swales to develop the ideologies associated with discourse community characteristics, and improvements in my closing slide.

 

The content of our reading logs tend to have a very similarly structured look. The top portion includes quotes of assigned readings, with a short analysis right below it. This part follows a specific lexis style. Quote then emphasize. This makes us students comprehend what the author is teaching. The middle portion generally includes notes of how the student will continue onward to accomplish the next assignment, and the last part is revision notes that both students write for other students to read, and personal notes for their own revisions.

 

When writing suggestions for revisions for fellow classmates, it is natural to have a sort of simplistic language. We as a community have similar goals, which is why it is in everyones best interest to provide the most quality feedback. As far as the classroom setting is concerned, we all sit at tables close together. We are separated only by laptops which we use to provide feedback. The person providing the feedback often asks the corresponding author questions which makes the author reconsider certain aspects of their writing. This peer feedback strategy proves useful because many times we as authors do not see imperfections which are otherwise obvious to many others. Much of the feedback I have received from classmates often times makes me wonder why I don’t always peer review everything I write down. There is no absolute correct way to provide peer review feedback, however just analyzing over someone else’s work also has an impact on your own writing. Many times, I will notice something I don’t like on one of my fellow classmates projects that I notice I’ve also been doing. I provide feedback mentioning what I don’t like, then quietly change my own writing as well because I notice I have the same flaw.

 

Genre has always been the elephant in the room. It is unspoken, yet oh so critical. Genre is used to connect readers and writers in a much more interment manner. It is amazing how much ones genre can effect his or her influences on a reader. A strong genre can seriously sway the outcomes of the author. The more accurate the authors genre speaks to his or her audience, the  more likely that his or her audience will connect with their writing.

 

The feedback genre exclusively exists for the benefit of each writer. It is not designed to hurt feelings or make people feel stupid. It isn’t even constructive criticism. It is there to strengthen your classmates paper. They are there to review you to in tern strengthen your writings.  The classroom genre is one of the most important aspects that aid to the success of our feedback. Short and simple responses bullet points, while simple, provide the boost necessary for fellow classmates to

 

Work Cited:

Dirk, Kerry, “Navigating Genres.” Writing Spaces: Readings on Writing. Eds. Charles Lowe and Pavel Zemliansky. Parlor Press, 2010. 249-262. Web. http://writingspaces.org/essays.

 

Swales, John. “The Concept of Discourse Community.” Genre Analysis: English in Academic and Research Settings.  Cambridge: Cambridge UP, 1990. Swales Discourse Community.pdf

 

End of Life Care…a Difficult Conversation?

Thinking about end of life care is not easy…this topic has been coming up a lot in critical care clinical, as I have been taking care of patients that have been given dire prognosis, more so than in any clinical so far. When I was assigned a day with the case worker, I was surprised how often this topic came up, which was every time. Cottage case workers review each patient’s advanced directives and encourage the patient to have written instructions included in their file in case of an end of life event. I found that there is a booklet called “the Five Rights” which is a legal document that outlines an individual’s wishes for several scenarios regarding end of life care. I witnessed several patients refuse to speak to the case manager about these wishes, and others be completely open, even if their condition was fine. In these cases, these patients were simply well prepared.

I asked the case worker if I could have a copy of the Five Wishes booklet and took it home. I read through it and found questions that I felt comfortable answering, and some others, not so much. Maybe actually thinking of details made me uncomfortable, I’m not sure. That night I also approached my mother about the booklet. To my surprise she knew all about it and said that she thought she had filled it out, but wasn’t quite sure where it was. My mother is Chinese, and in our culture we do not speak of death or arrangements, but do have a strong cultural tie to confucianism, which honors the dead as part of the current living family. I knew then that she was a bit more open-minded than some of my Chinese family and asked her if we could chat more about the Five Wishes booklet. After several minutes, we agreed to arrange a meeting between my sister, her and myself to fill out booklets. I felt morbidly relieved!

I recently was doing research for a paper that included aspects of ritual and culture at time of death. Although the authors of these articles could give many examples of end of life cultural norms, they also specified that it could vary. I believe that the last ingredient is always each individual’s emotions, experience and expectations regarding death and the dying. Any combination can influence the actions that occur at the end of life, whether an individual openly/willingly participates in their own or another’s.

This is definitely the case in regards to the meeting with my sister and mother that I tried to arrange. Here we are, weeks later and my sister has been delaying our meeting. On my mother’s and my side, we have been trying to make arrangements to get the booklets filled out as soon as possible. In a sad coincidence, a friend of the family is in hospice care at the moment; my mother and I have been paying regular visits and it has been difficult. Even more difficult is that he has no advance directives and can barely speak. He would consider himself a traditional Chinese man and has been avoiding any topic regarding end of life care, even with his doctors. There are many details, including the fact that he owns a dog, that are left hanging. Until recently he was refusing to agree to a DNR as well. As my mother and I have been seeing what happens without clear instructions, it has fueled our desire to fill out the Five Wishes booklet.

I understand that every individual is unique and has a right to the end of life care that they desire. What makes this hard to face is that end of life involves family, friends and a healthcare team, so it is important to make sure that all those involve know what the patient wants. It can be a difficult conversation, or as in my mother and my case, one that is relieving.

Channel Your Inner Super Hero!

Campus Reading Celebration author Karen Joy Fowler inspired the CI Community last week with her story of resilience, perseverance, and lots and lots of drafts in her journey to becoming the successful writer she is today. Channel your own inner super hero in these remaining weeks of the semester as we power through to the thrilling finish!

Karen Joy Fowler
2015 Campus Reading Celebration Author Karen Joy Fowler

End of Life Care

This is a very interesting topic and one that I have actually discussed at length with many members of my family. I have strong feelings about the kind of care I would want in such a situation. I usually feel like my family would know what I would want, but sometimes I worry that maybe they wouldn’t be able to follow through on withdrawing care. My grandmother died last June, and there were a lot of end of life care decisions to make. One day she was fine, still running her own household in the same home she’d lived in for over sixty years, driving around town doing her own errands, taking long walks each day, and cooking large meals for guests. Three days later she was diagnosed with terminal gallbladder cancer, couldn’t eat or drink anything at all and had three months to live. She was blessed in the sense that she was completely lucid and competent when she received her diagnosis. She decided to decline the IV fluids and feeding tube that would have been necessary to live out those three months. She returned home and family descended from all over the country to support her in her final days as she slowly dehydrated to death. I have a large family, certain members of which can be pretty feisty, and there were a lot of strong opinions in the air as this process ran its course. There were those that wished my grandma would have accepted more treatment so that we could have more time with her. One aunt offered several times to consistently give more morphine than prescribed to speed the process up, because that what she would have wanted for herself. I think often times it is difficult to separate what they would want for themselves from what a loved one wants. The experience certainly gave me insight into how complicated the family dynamics can become in these situations. It also made even clearer to me that even loved ones who have your best interest at heart don’t always know what you want. If my grandmother had not been cognizant enough to make her own decision, I can only imagine the tumult that would have ensued as the family fractured and argued about what care she would have wanted. I have made it clear on many occasions to various family members what kind of care I would want, but in reflecting on it now, I wonder if they would know how to apply my requests in the face of a complicated medical situation. Completing a living will has been on my to do list for quite a while now, but I recently set myself a deadline to have it completed and reviewed by the end of the year. I am going to name my partner as my power of attorney; our seven years together have given me confidence that he would know what I wanted. I think some people feel that having these kinds of conversations may tempt fate, or that it is too slim of a chance that anything will happen to warrant giving it thought. However, I believe strongly in having all your bases covered, especially for something that affects you as much as your own death.

End of Life Care

When my grandmother was dying, she was brought back to her home from the hospital. My father and his siblings all stayed in the house and cared for her, with the help of visiting hospice nurses. One day towards the end, my father heard my grandmother tell one of the nurses how embarrassed and sorry she was that the nurse had to deal with her incontinence. The nurse turned to my grandmother and said simply, “I love doing this.” To this day, my father will tear up when telling that story, and hearing it from him had a strong residual effect on my brother and me. Now when I think about death, I still remember the story he told us when we were kids, which I’ve turned into a kind of romanticized death fantasy. I imagine myself in the place of my grandmother, dying in bed at home, surrounded by my kids and cared for by angelic-looking hospice nurses. It’s the same image since I was 7, I haven’t updated it at all, despite my much more current interactions with illness and aging. I think I’m really unable to think about it more seriously than that, I just kinda turn off.

My father is the same way. Whenever I broach the topic he either says he wants me to drop him off in the woods and drive away when he gets too old, or that I don’t need to worry about dealing with him at all, cause he’s going to “ride the big wave” when he’s ready to check out. However, by treading carefully with him and talking about the deaths of his parents, rather than specifically his death or mine, we were able to both have a (slightly indirect) conversation about our wishes related to end of life care. I was unable to ask about funeral stuff, but the healthcare questions are almost more about values and beliefs and much easier to talk about.