Pull the Plug
Having discussions about end of life and the type of care that we want is extremely important. When I was in 8th grade my grandma suddenly suffered a brain aneurysm. She survived her trip to the hospital but was intubated and on mechanical breathing with a poor prognosis. It was her wishes if it looked like she would to not remain like this if there was only minimal or no chances of her ever getting off life assisting devices. All of my family was there when stopped everything and she passed. While still devastated, at this age I could understand that this was what my grandma had wanted.
At the same time my mother talked to my sister and me and said she wanted the same thing. My mom said she never wanted to be hooked up to machines, to stay that way and never get off. And she has been open about her wishes ever since this time. She has since made me her medical power of attorney. I think this has helped me to be open about my desires as well. I have shared these desires, which are the same as my mom’s and my grandma’s, with my fiancée. And I had to ask him if he could pull the plug. He certainly did not like the topic and did not want to talk about it at first. However, I told him you never know what’s going to happen in life and it is best to always be prepared then to make someone suffer something they do not want. I told him what happened to my grandma and how she was the epitome of health, always busy always running around. And then so suddenly on life support. He finally said that he would pull the plugs if he had to. When prompted for his wishes in the same situation, he wanted the same as me. I think it is very important to discuss and be open with your family and loved ones about the end of life.
